I absolutely love this article. It should be boosted. When I read the title, I know knew it would be good and it delivered 110%. Truly amazing insight. Many have such low self esteem they can't recognise it in themselves and trying to change is beyond their control. What the don't realise is acceptance and that's very powerful. When someone typically tries to change the often don't even understand why. The look at situations which were bad and maybe regret things the said or did. That is fine and regret is something we should all do if we do things that hurt others etc. But acceptance is a different matter and by accepting ourselves we accept others and can see faults in others that affected us and vice versa. So in order to change, we can simply learn to accept and live with ourselves and know we aren't to blame for other's behaviour but take responsibility for our own. Without acceptance we can't do that.