I think abandonment does have its limits. It's very interesting how "familiar" your story is. I have and still do experience recurrent abandonment but I now do the "abandoning" in circumstances that I know how it hurt me too much and I dont want to go through it yet again, and where I have hurt others too. I no longer give someone a 2nd, 3rd, 4th chance. There is definitely a limit on accepting abandonment as being a healthy part of life. It's even much worse, as the more you accept it, the more likely you will be abandoned, not just by these people but others. Like a disease that spreads. Reading your story has made me understand the "connection" between original abandonment and abandonment throughout life. It's like a recurrent theme to be aware of always.