Really good article. I can identify with covering up vulnerability. I have always found showing it in public etc to be particularly traumatic. Like putting a sign on my forehead saying "hey, I'm a doormat" kind of feeling. Having healthy boundaries involves keeping certain things private. There are too many people waiting to exploit vulnerability or fear, it transmits. They say dogs sense fear and are more likely to attack when you are afraid or panic rather than when you stay cool. Same with some people, if they sense any out of control emotion, they will exploit and some will actually enjoy tormenting you and seeing you squirm while they maintain control or composure. I am glad you met someome who you can truly let down your guard.