Thanks, it's good to know other's views and experiences. I think we all have faults and a role to play in conflict. The problems arise when only one person in a disagreement is willing to be truthful and open, whereas someone else might not have these intentions despite saying they do. I am a firm believer that actions speak louder than words. If someone apologies to me but there are mixed messages even in the apology (ie) "I didn't intend that but if I did, I am sorry". Already there is a mixed message and ambiguity, so it's hard to know what they are sorry for or sorry at all. Then if their actions show no change, and they try to blame me it's clear it's manipulation rather than genuine apology. Sad some people feel a need to do this, rather than be genuinely honest and open. I think rejection like that is welcome, as I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who behaves like that and the rejection is helpful because it encourages me to focus on the right things in life. Thanks for reading!