Thanks Olive. I think where adoption groups on facebook are concerned, honesty there are always issues. I have nothing to do with them. The groups I had trouble with on FB were created by Adoptees here but included those in other countries. It also included birth parents and others in the extended adoption triad. Many wanted the loudest voice. Some wrote books and had more power than others (these were the ones with power). Given my own issues with birth family which some in the group knew about, I felt disadvantaged and disempowered and it made it worse and more traumatic.

While adoption is a part of my life, it doesn't define me. I got away from these adoption groups on facebook (they weren't writers, only some had books written, but the majority weren't writers). Many didn't have good reasoning or intellectual ability. I could see a lot of toxicity. Facebook is the worst. At least people on Medium are writers and have more intellectual prowess, and interactions are on a different level. I never want my past defining who I am, as it would be like death to me. Adoption is only part of someone's life, not a definition of it. Thank you Olive for reading and responding. It means a lot when people are kind and understanding. 🪷