Very accurate and a lot resonanced with me. Reactive abuse is not a topic understood well and it is how narcissists maintain control and supply even if the relationship is completely over. By reacting the narcissist has a hold over the victim even if they never see, hear or speak to them. In my view the way to combat this is slowing down one's nervous system, as that is where reactions happen. Look carefully and deeply into what the narcissist really wants a victim to feel/think/do, knowing their motives were not good or genuine. Don't take the BAIT. It's what they use to reel in their victims as they have established power and control from day 1. That is how victims loose control and react against the abuse but slowing down and NOT doing whatever it is you think the narcissists woupd like is how to cope. Then good healthy decisions can be made. The Narcissist knows their victim's weaknesses VERY well. They study their victims from day 1. They lleave their victims traumatised and often with PTSD or similar. They leave them constantly questioning who themselves and not understanding why they were treated so badly. The whole gaslighting, manipulation, blackmailing, covert abuse, lying etc is quite frightening when one realises the narcissist often have enablers who treat the victim the same. In my experience of being a victim, surviving is like a constant battle of life or death. I experience traumatic stress like my mind/body can't tell whether something happened in the past, as it seems to be happening in the present. This has the effect of distorting one's sense of control and reality, which is what narcissist gaslighting is about. There is no winning with narcissists, other than admitting how foolish it was to ever trust or believe them. It's a very painful experience.

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