Yes, it's great to know it was a dream not reality. I wish some things in life could be the same, and were dreams instead of nightmares. Been going through one the last few days, not a dream but nightmare. Since mentioning to a job adviser few months ago I was writing on Medium (which she hadn't a clue what that was!), she advised waiting until I earn about €100-€150 on medium before declaring income to the department here that pays me jobseekers for being unemployed. I was OK with that but had a strange gut feeling she probably thought it was all nonsense and I would never make anything on Medium. But I always give someone benefit of doubt. Anyway, a few days ago it all got really nasty and escalated. I had the usual monthly meeting with her. She appeared very negative towards me, almost passive aggressive, and it was like talking to a stone wall. She completely backtracked on what she previously said about declaring earnings and denied it. Basically gaslighting me. So I felt a stupid or like a liar. It really wasn't a good meeting. Later it played on my mind what she did, as I knew the truth. I was going to ignore it but it got the better of me eventually. I sent her an email saying I felt gaslighted and bullied and next morning got an email saying she had forwarded my email to the department who pays me and threatening any other such emails will be passed onto them. She also said she wasn't going to see me again, given my feelings and what I said. So she had no accountability for the truth and blamed me.
The whole thing was highly stressful and I had to call into department showing my earnings from medium (and small cost of living increase in small NHS pension I get). It was very difficult initially trying to explain about being self employed, as my earnings are so very low from medium and I was worried my claim would be stopped. Eventually I did get to speak to a senior person in the department who dealt with me very reasonably and fairly, understanding my situation and said my claim wouldn't be stopped. He gave me forms to complete and had to provide evidence etc. On top of that he me.tionrd there might be a home visit from an "Inspector" because I get a jobseekers payment! So I didn't like that at all and since then completed all forms etc and returned ASAP. I made it very clear that under NO circumstances will an Inspector come to my home and invade my privacy. So outrageous to think I could be treated as some kind of criminal because I am not working. No money is ever worth that.
So yes, I wish this was all a dream, instead of the nightmare it was. On top of all that I dropped my phone and screen cracked, but luckily can still use it. Hopefully the situation will be resolvable but terrible people seeking work and trying to help themselves are treated like criminals. I have done all the right things. The senior person who gave me the forms was supportive of my trying to be self employed and writing on Medium, saying they encourage people to do such things to increase their employment prospects.
